Heavy Is The Head Who Wears The Crown

Mindset

Nov 25

Written By Abel Mezemer

There’s people in this world who honestly have no friends or family left… then there’s people like me.

I have a Mom, Brother & Niece. I have plenty of friends that I can call or text everyday w/o any limitations.

However, This was me on Thanksgiving Day 2018.

I just checked my photos app from a year ago & also… no picture of food, family or friends.

I like to rely on the descriptions “introvert” & “homebody” as my reasons aka excuses for wanting to be alone a majority of the time & excluding myself from get togethers.

What this technique has brought me is distance vs the things in life we enjoy but can’t buy, love.

If you’re feeling sorry for me at this point, don’t.

I believe every adult is more than capable of choosing his/her fate.

You can’t have your cake & eat it too.

You can’t have the space for quiet as well as the presence of love.

You can't be selfish with other people's time when it's convenient for you.

A day that's created for busy people to connect with the people that they love, I chose to spend it doing the "important thing" that I value.

How did I get here?

I chose myself again and again to the point where I didn't make time for others.

You can't tell someone that you miss them, you have to show them.

You can't tell someone they're important to you, you have to show them.

November 30, 2016, I made a decision that being in an office all day wasn't the best thing for me.

I jumped in without thinking. I took a leap of faith.

I refused to be surrounded with people who were draining me of my energy.

I'm not someone that likes to complain when I know I can control the outcome.

Being 30 years old, I don't feel that much different than when I was 21.

What makes me feel physically good is the decision that I made over a decade ago to start working out and six years ago to change my nutrition.

My mom couldn't cook for me anymore because I refused to eat her food.

I couldn't hang out with my brother as much because I was too picky to eats chips and burgers every day.

I couldn't hang out with my friends because I didn't have the money to afford drinks or eat out multiple times a week.

I didn't want to let family or culture dictate the way did I lived.

When you choose to live life on your terms, it's going to come with a lot of lonely days, it's going to come with a lot of frustration, it's going to come with the days that test your will.

Why would any sane person choose to diet and workout when most of their friends & family will not participate.

Why would you want to put so much stress on your plate, when most of the people that love you will let you down?